For decades, my life occurred in the 10 minutes of the day that existed between everyone else’s schedule, agenda, needs and demand. I lamented that I didn’t really have a life- I was so caught up in making sure everyone else’s life was meeting their own expectations, and to do this I put everyone’s needs first and mine were a very, very distant last. You’d need the Hubble Telescope to even see them lagging behind.
Read MoreNothing makes your own heart weep, then hearing someone you love struggling.
You want to swoop in, snatch them up and wrap them up in bubble wrap until the storm has passed. But you can’t. All you can do is hold the space and allow them to feel, grow, and hopefully emerge stronger in the knowledge that they can do it.
The fear of staying was so much greater than the fear of leaving. I wanted me back. I wanted to know what loving me felt like. I wanted to live a life full of purpose. I wanted to re-discover who I was and to embrace that girl in a warm, safe hug.
Read MoreThere’s this underlying current of thinking that many of us suffer from. We think if we ask for what we want, we are being selfish, not selfless. Hundreds of years of conditioning, especially for women, has taught us to subjugate our needs and wants. It’s getting over this hurdle, that is the hardest.
Read MoreThere are three steps. Easy peasy, right? Three things you can do to have healthier friendships, because those relationships are your anchor- they keep you grounded when the winds and waves of life threaten to rip you off course.
As women we need connection to others. It’s how we grow, gain support, express our creativity, emerge as goddesses, and embrace our own vulnerabilities. Without friendships, life is isolating, and our spirits shrink and dim.
Read MoreWhy does the word selfish get such a bum rap?
Why is it undesirable or even considered a bit ugly to think about yourself? Your feelings, wants, and desires? How else are you going to know what you really want your life to be?
I’ve redefined selfish.
Read MoreThe Disease to Please.
Maybe you’re a victim too? Its tentacles grasping at your values, boundaries, and authenticity? Trying to keep you stuck in place, where everyone else’s needs overshadow your own until you end up living a life where your wants, desires and dreams are just wisps of memory?
