Your Checklist for the Most Loving Valentine's Day (even if you're single)

Yep, I have a love/hate relationship with Valentine’s.

The reason?

For years, (okay total honesty, it was decades) I looked for love in all the wrong places. I looked to others for my worth and lovability. I depended on someone else to tell me that I’m beautiful, amazing, and desirable.

Sound familiar?

The reason Valentine’s can be a big fat disappointment is that you put your dreams and happiness for the day into someone else’s hands. It’s time to make things happen for you and not to you.

Happiness, Love, self esteem and worthKirstin BarsnessFebruary 11, 2021Kismet CoachingBest Valentines Day, Valentines Day checklist for self love, Valentines checklist, Best Valentines for singlesComment

A powerful tool to develop a loving relationship with your body

Do you spend time cataloging everything that isn’t perfect about your body? Every wrinkle, extra freckle, your weird big toe, the way the razor doesn’t leave your underarm silky smooth?

Your body image is intertwined with your sense of worth. A thread that’s unbreakable- it can either be a cage or wings. The choice is yours.

self esteem and worth, Poetry, health & wellness, HappinessKirstin BarsnessJanuary 14, 2021Kismet Coachingself esteem, changing negative body talk, embracing your body, how to love your bodyComment

How choosing to divorce was choosing to live my life

The fear of staying was so much greater than the fear of leaving. I wanted me back. I wanted to know what loving me felt like. I wanted to live a life full of purpose. I wanted to re-discover who I was and to embrace that girl in a warm, safe hug.

Happiness, health & wellness, Gratitude, Healthy Boundaries, Personal Growth, self esteem and worthKirstin BarsnessAugust 20, 2020Kismet CoachingDivorce like a Diva, Choosing DivorceComment

7 morning affirmations to spark magic

Pssst…I’ll tell you a secret.

You can choose to have an astonishing kick butt kind of day or a ho hum, drag your fanny kind of day.

That’s right- you can choose.

It’s totally up to you. Not your boss, your friend with the crazy schemes, or even the guy who flipped you off on the way to work. It’s all on you.

Happiness, health & wellness, MiraclesKirstin BarsnessJuly 30, 2020Kismet Coaching7 morning affirmations, shift your life to happiness, how to be happier, affirmations for happinessComment

Your most important love affair

Given my newfound knowledge, that I must love me first and best, I’m doing and experiment. Instead of concentrating on a new romantic relationship, I’m focusing on bring more love into my life.

Love, Personal Growth, HappinessKirstin BarsnessJanuary 30, 2020Kismet Spiritual Life Coachinglove yourself first, one loving act, want more love in your life?Comment

How to ask for what you want

If you’re like me, you don’t always directly ask for what you want. You may hint around the edges, but never really look your desire straight in the face and say, “I choose you.” It’s as if there’s some unwritten rule or misguided assumption that to ask for what you truly want is just not done or even a bit selfish.

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Embracing that Sucky Feeling

Usually I try to jolly myself out of ‘this life is sucky’ place, but as I mowed my lawn, I decided to stop and stay for a while. I gave myself permission to wallow. I gave it to the pity party and since it was my party – I cried because I wanted to.

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Love your Money Honey! How in 15 minutes a day you change your story.

Six months ago, I sat at my computer in utter despair, fear had me by throat, and I was panicked. I’ve struggled with a lack mentality for the past few decades, although in my twenties it never was an issue. However, my lack thoughts were manifesting in my savings account as a whole lot of nothing.
It was time to move beyond the internal pep talk and take some serious action. This woman couldn’t live on $250 in her savings- it was giving me heart palpitations and night sweats.

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Is your self image blurry?

Self perception is a funny business. Not in a belly laugh sort of way, but as more of a self misconception.

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How to Stay in a Positive Place (Drink your lemonade and ditch the lemons)

When things are going really, really well for me, I freak a little bit. It’s like I can’t stay in bliss without taking a peak behind the curtain to see if the boogeyman is there to mess it up. I want to ride the wave of my positive momentum- fully balanced and looking damn good-but at the same time there’s a little niggly and totally annoying voice in my head saying, “This isn’t going to last.”