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Your Checklist for the Most Loving Valentine's Day (even if you're single)
Your Checklist for the Most Loving Valentine's Day (even if you're single)

Yep, I have a love/hate relationship with Valentine’s.

The reason?

For years, (okay total honesty, it was decades) I looked for love in all the wrong places. I looked to others for my worth and lovability. I depended on someone else to tell me that I’m beautiful, amazing, and desirable.

Sound familiar?

The reason Valentine’s can be a big fat disappointment is that you put your dreams and happiness for the day into someone else’s hands. It’s time to make things happen for you and not to you.

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Happiness, Love, self esteem and worthKirstin BarsnessKismet CoachingBest Valentines Day, Valentines Day checklist for self love, Valentines checklist, Best Valentines for singlesComment
8 things the pandemic can't steal from you
8 things the pandemic can't steal from you

It’s been 10 months.

That’s a long time.

I miss warm hugs, not having to worry if my mask is with me, and meeting friends for coffee – where I want and when I want.

I’m tired of hearing the fear in my mom’s voice, sitting in my home office chair for hours on end, and talking about the virus.

I’m sick of the frigging pandemic. But I’m not going to let it steal from me. I’m not going to let it define my any piece of my life. Yes- I want it done and gone, but I know it will leave an imprint.

Here’s my list of things COVID-19 can’t steal away from me.

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Fear, Gratitude, Love, stressKirstin Barsnesslesson in a pandemic, how to control your fear, covid 19 lessons, what covide 19 can teach youComment
How to hold the space when someone you love is hurting
How to hold the space when someone you love is hurting

Nothing makes your own heart weep, then hearing someone you love struggling.

You want to swoop in, snatch them up and wrap them up in bubble wrap until the storm has passed. But you can’t. All you can do is hold the space and allow them to feel, grow, and hopefully emerge stronger in the knowledge that they can do it.

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Friendships, health & wellness, Healthy Boundaries, Love, stressKirstin BarsnessKismet Coachinghow to help someone you love who's hurting, how to help someone, how to help someone you love, how to help someone who hurts, how to deal with other peoples pain, how to comfort a friendComment
Three words that can shift your self esteem higher
Three words that can shift your self esteem higher

Every time you utter these three words, you’re telling the world that you don’t matter.

That they’re wasting time on you.

That your wants, desires, and dreams are unimportant.

It’s self sabotage and it’s time to put a stop to it.

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Love, Personal Growth, self esteem and worthKirstin BarsnessKismet Spiritual Life Coachingraise your self esteem, three words you shouldn't utter, how to get better self esteem, how to be a better receiverComment