I’m feeling pulled, like Gumby (remember him?). Someone’s pulling my right leg while twisting my left arm.  I’m in a knot and my head’s definitely not on straight.  Stretch beyond what is humanely possible.

I thought I had my stuff together. That after years of doing some really hard work and excavating old wounds and bringing to the light all that needed to be healed, I’d finally arrived at the promise land.  A place where old fears never visited, and I would skip along my merry way singing Dancing Queen.

Instead I fell into a trap with tears streaming down my face. 

I so want to be part of the cool kids.  Those ultra-savvy and successful people who everything they touch turns to gold or platinum.  They own amazing businesses, have tons of followers and subscribers, legions of people devour every word they say or write, and to add to my pain they have amazing hair. 

In comparison,  I feel like an imposter, someone who’s just stumbling through life and gets lucky on occasion.

Can you relate?

Do you ever feel like you’re not enough?  Or that your dream can’t possibly come true because who are you to even want something more or better? 

Comparison- it’s the dream killer.

We look all around and see the shiny, glitz of other people’s lives, but what we’re missing is the glimpse beneath the surface.  Because no one gets a free pass to a perfect life.  Everyone has challenges and struggles. 

I recently started an online course called Digital Course Academy and boy howdy did it trigger in me the old imposter syndrome reflex.  As I read posts from people who are out there with thousands of subscribers, have already launched a 6-figure course, and by all standards really have their stuff together – I shrink.

The little voice in my head, the whiney one with the twang, starts a harping.

“No one bought your first course, why try again – you’ll just fail.”

“You don’t have what it takes- it was all a dream- that flopped big time.”

“Why don’t you just hang up this life coaching crap- life would be easier.”

I know that everyone is different.   I know this is a mindset issue.  I know I just want to bury my head in the sand and walk away.  I know I can’t walk away- it’s not within me to do it.

What’s needed is a shift.

How do I begin?

By recognizing that I don’t need to change anything.

It goes to loving me- completely, unconditionally, and joyously

I’m perfect as I am.  Although there are times when I forget.

I have a unique set of gifts that no one else has on this planet. If I want my world to change, it starts with loving myself.

When you love yourself, change happens naturally. Any change you want to make just occurs over time without additional effort.  When you love yourself, you kick the bad habits, set healthy boundaries, and don’t tolerate bad behavior from yourself or others.

You embrace your self worth and know that you’re deserving of a life rich with abundance, joy, and love.  And you don’t settle for less because your expectations have shifted.

My first step is to stop the comparisons and look at what I bring to the table.  I can start by making a list of things I’ve already accomplished, especially those things where the journey wasn’t a straight path, which is just all ALL of them!

I’ll start with this…

Today I wrote a blog letting you know that you’re perfect as you are and don’t need to change.  But if you want a shift in your life- start with a heaping dose of self love.